“Motherhood is the best thing I’ve ever experienced – and the most challenging.” –Jessica Simpson
Being a Mom is tough. As I sit here writing this, I am lying on piles of clean unfolded laundry with my face hard and rough from the dried up tears I had created an hour ago. It was a rough day… A day filled with my Toddler refusing to take a nap, refusing to eat, biting me, yelling at me, teething, wanting to stand up and jump in the bath … the list goes on and on. All I can say is it was an extremely tough day.
“Being a mom has made me so tired. And so happy.” – Tina Fey
It’s tough because I really try. I research constantly about toddler nutrition, sleep schedules, crafts, how to keep a clean house with a toddler, when to start chores with your toddler… I do flashcards to work his brain, I scold him to teach him right from wrong, I try to teach him please and thank you to teach him manners… and with all of that I still sometimes feel like I am just winging it. Coming from someone who was in a profession of event planning, the concept of “winging it” has been the toughest lesson to swallow for me as a Mother. Why? BECAUSE there is so much to worry about! I worry about nutrition, worry about allergies, worry about sickness, worry about my son falling on his head, worry about too much screen time…worry…worry…WORRY! I think it is really easy for us to get caught up in the worry of Motherhood. We want our kids to be smart, we want them to be talented, we want them to be healthy… but at the end of the day, I hope everyone’s first priority before smart, talented and healthy is the importance to raise them to be kind.
“We need to care less about whether our children are academically gifted and more about whether they sit with the lonely kid in the cafeteria.” – Anonymous
Listen, we TRY… and WE TRY HARD! Motherhood is exhausting and tough and selfless; but it is also rewarding and filled with joy and even though you have that rough day, when that little one stops and randomly gives you a slobbery open mouth kiss with their sticky PB&J lips… well you just melt. Well at least I do. You see, today was tough and all those things I mentioned earlier did happen. But today while my Son was screaming and refusing to put his pants on… he randomly stopped and gave me a PB&J kiss! He then ran over to our dog, Bowie and hugged him. It is in these moments, when I think… okay … I am doing my job. He may be pant-less right now, he may have ONLY had a 10-minute nap today, gets mad at me during flashcard time AND EVEN chucks mac & cheese at the wall when he is done eating… BUT I can tell you one thing about my Son, he is kind and he is good.
“There is no way to be a perfect mother, and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
You see, as Mothers I think we tend to try to be perfect. That is because we want what is best for our children and we think what is best for them is the perfect Mother. What if our definition of “perfect”, though, is skewed? What if, perfect also meant “with flaws”… what if failing everyday as a Mom also showed we were perfect because in our child’s eyes it shows that no matter what the outcome, we are still here standing, (even if you had to hide in the pantry or bathroom for a quick second to gather yourself!) In their eyes, maybe we are SUPER WOMAN!
“There will be so many times you feel like you’ve failed. But in the eyes, heart, and mind of your child you ARE Super Mom. You are their world. And you are doing a fabulous job.” – Stephanie Precourt
At the end of the day, we have one job. That job isn’t to raise the smartest kid, the strongest kid, the most talented kid… our job is to raise a kind kid. A kid that is empathetic, that choses to be selfless instead of self-serving; a kid that puts others before themselves, that wants to give to those in need, that is our job! Of course, we want our kids to have academic achievement and talent and to accomplish all of their dreams, but that will come with time. So next time you have a tough day like the day I had today filled with chaos, stress and worry… stop… take a breath… and remember… the most important thing we can do as Moms, is to raise a good human!
Ashland is a mom and lifestyle blogger based in Southern California. She worked for years as the event planner at Disneyland and has recently followed her heart and created a space to share her thoughts and dreams with her blog. To learn more about Ashland, click here. You can also follow her on Instagram.