AND SO IT BEGINS. A NEW CHAPTER IN THE BOOK OF WEESTRUCTED, AND YOU’RE INCLUDED. HERE ARE THE STORIES OF MOMS LIKE YOU, AS TOLD BY ONE OF OUR FAVORITES, MARISSA ELLIS. THIS WEEK’S ‘WEE WING IT’ INTERVIEW IS WITH Kim Smith. TAKE A SEAT, MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE IN YOUR ‘MOTHERHOOD WINGING IT” MUG, AND DIVE INTO Kim’S Daily life of raising two wee ones while trying to maintain some kind of schedule! ENJOY
Marissa: Hi Kim! Thanks for Winging It! Why don’t you start by telling me a little bit about your kids and family:
Kim: My husband Scott and I have been married for nearly four years. A little over two years ago, we had our sweet baby girl Maddie who has been the light of our lives since the day she was born. As if a little princess wasn’t exhausting enough for us, we added a precious prince to our family a few months ago. Mason is 3.5 months old and has been the perfect addition to our family. Maddie adores her little brother and genuinely seems like she was born to be a big sister. We cannot wait to see how their bond grows throughout the years.
Marissa: That seems like an awesome little family unit. So Maddie is a little over two, what is she into these days?
Kim: What isn’t Maddie into?! She loves a little bit everything. She loves being outdoors —playing in her toy house, “riding” her bike, helping daddy water the trees and plants, playing at the playground, going on walks… you name it.
M: Oh man, sounds like a little of this and a little of that! Even in this heat?!
K: Even when it’s a smoldering 90 degrees outside. Maddie also loves to get into anything, particularly toys or activities with a zillion pieces. Building blocks or stacking towers are her jam. We call her the tornado or human wrecking machine because it’s mystifying that she can make such a huge mess in such a short time. She is also quite the movie lover—Frozen, Finding Nemo, Ice Age, The Good Dinosaur and Tangled are a just a few of the staples in this house.
M: How is Mason adjusting/sleeping/etc.?
K: Mason is a champ! He is quite a content little man these days. We are so grateful to have a wonderful sleeper this time around, as Maddie got up twice a night until she was 9 months old because she was a nursing MACHINE. Thankfully, Mason is much more reasonable and usually sleeps from 9pm-ish to at least 4am (sometimes 6am if he’s feeling super generous). However, since he is approaching 4 months, we probably have the 4-5 month sleep regression waiting to literally crush our dreams.
M: Ahh, babies. The cutest of dream crushers. Well what about you? What do you love (besides your family of course)?
K: I’m just a typical stay-at-home mom, just trying to get by with a little help from caffeine (or maybe a lot if I’m being honest). I absolutely LOVE being a mom; my whole life I always felt like it was my purpose. At times, it can be a lot to manage… no one really talks enough about the arduous days that test your patience. Motherhood is not all rainbows and butterflies. Some days I’m ripping out my hair and want to beach myself on an island far away but would indubitably miss my kids within 5 minutes of arriving… Yup, I’m that mom that counts the minutes until naptime/bedtime so that I can take a shower and regain my sanity; yet, once they’re asleep, I’m stalking them on the baby monitor because I miss them so much. I adore my family and would not change a thing about it. I honestly cannot complain much. I have the best, most hardworking hubby that adores all three of us. I am so appreciative of what a hands-on dad he is (total rockstar status) and how nauseatingly wonderful he is all around. I am lucky I get to stay home with my little ones and I try to soak up every little moment, as you can tell by the insane amount of photos of Maddie and Mason on my iPhone. I also love my lattes—I may or may not be a Starbucks addict. That’s normal at this stage of motherhood, right? (The Pumpkin Spice Latte countdown is on…)
M: Oh, well let me just assure you you’re not the only mom who is addicted to Starbucks, present company included. So give me a little back story about your “Winging It” picture:
K: It basically just captures my average day trying to manage an over zealous toddler while dragging due to a lack of caffeine. Baby Mason had fallen asleep on me after nursing and my bladder was full, as usual. I finally transferred him off of me so that I could pee and get some coffee (so as to not join him in slumber land). While watching Baby Einstein, my daughter was bouncing off the walls with excitement about the swan on TV and was yelling, “MOM! MOM! LOOK!” at which point she woke the baby just moments after the picture was taken. There’s never a dull moment when you have kids… You successfully move the baby without waking him (a huge win!) and then your daughter wakes him seconds later because she’s excited about a damn swan that she has seen a zillion times before on the same show.
M: That sounds about right. Looks like you were truly Winging It and getting creative to meet everybody’s needs (#momlife). So what do you think is the biggest thing you’ve learned about yourself since becoming a mom?
K: I’m generally a big planner. I like to have things scheduled out and know what’s coming my way. Motherhood can be a big slap in the face for people like me. I guess I’ve learned that I need to loosen up and be more of a “go with the flow” type person… Sometimes naps are a meager 45 minutes and some days they are nearly 4 hours. Flexibility is key and you have to look for the good in what is thrown your way. For example, I’ve come to recognize that, although short nap days can be trying, they also give you more one-on-one time with your kids, more opportunities to create wonderful memories to look back on and more chances to plant a few extra kisses while your kids still adore you. Those are the moments I’m sure I will be longing for in a few years.
M: Ain’t that the truth? Feels like flexibility is the name of the game (even when it drives us nuts). Currently my twins are slamming the blinds against the window but I’m not stopping them because it’s the only thing successfully distracting them from the computer. Ahh, motherhood. Well, thanks! I really appreciate you giving us a little glimpse into what motherhood and Winging It looks like to you!
CHECK OUT MORE OF MY WORDS AND A FEW FROM MY PAL, AND CREATIVE BABE (OF WEESTRUCTED) AMY ON OUR INSTRAGRAM ACCOUNT: @MOTHERHOODWINGINGIT
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MARISSA ELLIS IS A WIFE, MOTHER OF TWO (SOON TO BE THREE), AND ALL AROUND AWESOME HUMAN BEING. SHE RESIDES IN DENVER, COLORADO.