AND SO IT continues. the NEW CHAPTER IN THE BOOK OF WEESTRUCTED, AND YOU’RE INCLUDED. HERE ARE THE STORIES OF MOMS LIKE YOU, AS TOLD BY ONE OF OUR FAVORITES, MARISSA ELLIS. THIS WEEK’S ‘WEE WING IT’ INTERVIEW IS WITH mama lindsey caley. TAKE A SEAT, MAKE A CUP OF COFFEE IN YOUR “MOTHERHOOD WINGING IT” MUG, AND DIVE INTO lindsey’s world of keeping calm in an often chaotic environment. ENJOY!
Marissa: Hi Lindsey! Thank you so much for chatting with us today. I know you guys just left the hospital so I really appreciate you taking the time to talk with us. Can you start by telling me a little bit about your children and family:
Lindsey: My husband Shaun and I have identical twin boys, Colton, and Jack. They just recently turned 18 months and keep us very busy. They are our first children and we are so blessed. Jack is a busy bee and is very curious. He is a happy boy almost always. Colty had a rough start and spent three months in the NICU. He has many medical challenges and is fed by a gtube (feeding tube in his stomach). He is our love bug and loves snuggles. He watches Jack’s every move and lights up every time Jack is in the room.
Marissa: Sounds like you’re a busy mama! So what does a day in the life look like for you?
Lindsey: I am a stay at home mama and love this tiring role. We have private duty nursing for Colty three days a week, which gives me a little respite and lets me spend quality time with Jack. On Mondays and Fridays I am with both boys and we love to play outside, listen to music, and I have to play Houdini and juggle different feeding schedules and naps. Colty has five different therapies a week: physical therapy, occupational therapy, music, massage, and vision, as well as many doctors appointments. Keeping track of all of those is a full time job in itself.
M: Way to go, mama. I really admire your strength and everything you juggle. The boys (Shaun included) are so lucky to have you! So what do you love, besides all of your boys?
L: I love to have moments by myself to feel like the “old” Lindsey. I enjoy working out, spending time with friends, and a good ole Starbucks.
M: Ahh, Starbucks. And what do the boys love?
L: They love their family; Mama, Dada, each other, and Oggie the doggie. They love books, music, and people.
M: Can you give me a little back story about your “Winging It” picture?
L: This picture shows the reality of our life. Colty had a brain injury in utero and the boys both have a mosaic duplication of chromosome 15. Jack is thriving and Colty has struggled a lot; he is our little angel and quite a fighter. After a three-month stay in the NICU, we had a few months of a break, but since last September we have had six inpatient hospital stays and countless ER trips. Colty has had five different pneumonias, all which have required hospital stays. The picture that I shared shows Colty in I on Monday in his hospital bed wearing oxygen. There is no manual to being a first time mama and especially with a medically fragile child. I do the best I can every day for my boys. I am working on being “good enough” through this journey.
M: If that doesn’t capture “winging it”, I’m not sure what does! What would you say is the biggest thing you have learned about yourself since becoming a mom?
L: I have learned so much in the past 18 months but the biggest thing I have learned is that the moment I became a mama I lost all control. Any plan I had of what I thought this journey would be like is the complete opposite. We have had our share of struggles but one thing I know for sure is that in this life all you need is to be loved and to give love in return.
M: What’s your favorite part about having twins?
L: I love watching the bond that they share, yet how different they are. We had a hard time conceiving and I feel like we were doubly blessed. The boys are our everything!
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MARISSA ELLIS IS A WIFE, MOTHER OF TWO (SOON TO BE THREE), AND ALL AROUND AWESOME HUMAN BEING. SHE RESIDES IN DENVER, COLORADO.